Let’s talk frankly about Premature Ejaculation (PE). It’s the most common male sexual concern—affecting up to 40% of men—and it’s nothing to be embarrassed about. However, the anxiety and guilt it causes can turn the issue into a vicious cycle, often referred to as performance anxiety.
The good news? For most Filipino men, PE isn’t a disease; it’s a behavioral habit often rooted in stress, anxiety, or rushing during early sexual experiences. The solution is often using simple, easy-to-learn techniques that put you back in control.
The Causes
Before we can fix the problem, let’s look at the possible triggers, first. This is usually a mix of the following:
- Psychological Triggers: Performance Anxiety (fear of not satisfying your partner or being good enough in bed), stress from work, depression or guilt about sex can all contribute. Anxiety causes hypersensitivity and a rush to “finish.”
- Biological Factors: In some cases, it can be linked to low levels of serotonin, an inflamed prostate or even concurrent Erectile Dysfunction (ED).
Train Your Body to Slow Down
There are highly effective techniques that you can practice to teach your brain and body to recognize and control upcoming orgasms. The best part? You can ask for your partner’s help, boosting communication and intimacy.
- The Stop-Start Method (Edging)
This technique is all about building awareness.
- Action: Stimulate your penis (manually, orally or during intercourse) until you feel yourself approaching orgasm—the “point of no return.”
- Pause: Completely stop all stimulation for about 30 seconds until the intense urge passes and you regain control.
- Repeat: Start stimulation again. Repeat this stop-start cycle three, four or as many times as you can or want before allowing yourself to finally ejaculate.
- The Squeeze Technique
This is the advanced version, designed for quicker control.
- Action: When you are at the edge of climax, immediately stop.
- Squeeze: You or your partner firmly squeezes the head (glans) of the penis, right where the shaft meets the ridge, for about 30 seconds. This pressure temporarily dissipates the intense arousal, causing the erection to partially subside.
- Resume: When the urge subsides, continue stimulation. Repeat as necessary.
- Do your Kegels
Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles (the muscles you use to stop urine midstream) helps you gain muscular control over ejaculation.
- Action: Squeeze those muscles and hold for 3 seconds, then relax for 3 seconds.
- Routine: Do this 10 to 15 times, three times a day. Consistency is key!
Enhance Your Control with the Right Tool
Consider using PREMIERE Condoms Cruise Control. These condoms contain a special additive that helps to safely and effectively prolong intercourse while providing necessary protection.
When to Consult a Professional
If you find that these techniques and condom are not working after several weeks of consistent effort or if the issue is causing severe relationship distress, it’s time to see an expert.
- The best specialist to consult is a Urologist who sub-specializes in men’s sexual health or an Andrologist. They can rule out physical causes (like prostate issues or hormonal imbalances) and discuss medical treatments, such as oral medications or topical desensitizing creams.
Remember, choosing to improve your sexual health is an act of self-confidence and respect for your partner.
Sources:
American Urological Association (AUA). (n.d.). Premature Ejaculation. In AUA Patient Education. https://www.auanet.org/patients/product-types/patient-education-materials/premature-ejaculation
Mayo Clinic. (n.d.). Premature ejaculation: Diagnosis & treatment. In Diseases & Conditions. https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/premature-ejaculation/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20354900
